Something to think about...

I stumbled upon this story about a brave woman from Manchester, Connecticut trying to make a difference, literally one step at a time. I <3 inspiring women! :)

The Woman's Economic Need for Marriage

As I prepped for my first blog posting for CT NOW, I anxiously typed "Connecticut women" into Google in search of some inspiration only to be bombarded with UCONN women's basketball facts and various voters and leche leagues. I skimmed through various news articles and found nothing I considered to be worthy of discussing for all the world to see. Then, while getting sidetracked, I decided to read an article that my boyfriend had sent me earlier via e-mail. This article, titled "Marriage in America: The frayed knot", analyzes and highlights the importance of marriage and discusses the "marriage inequality gap" that is slowly affecting this country.

"The 'marriage gap' is the chief source of the country's notorious and widening inequality. Middle-class kids growing up with two biological parrents are 'socialised for success'. They do better in school, get better jobs and go on to create intact families of their own. Children of single parents or broken families do worse in school, get worse jobs and go on to have children out of wedlock. This makes it more likely that those born near the top or the bottom will stay where they started...America is turning into 'a nation of separate and unequal families'".

After reading the article, a couple things came to mind. Firstly, despite the article discussing why marriage is important, the article doesn't express the various justifiable reasons that women may end their marriages; such as mental or physical abuse, infidelity, etc.

Secondly, I understand that the author strongly attributes monetary stability and success with marriage and it makes me question why women are really marrying. The article points out that single mothers usually make 20k or less and that married couples make 75k+. I can't help but think that we as women feel a societal obligation to marry simply for that financial cushion to provide for our children. At one point in the article, marriage is referenced as a "wealth-generating institution" and I couldn't help but chuckle because it is so true, although many don't take the time to think about it. Although we live in the land of the free, financial concerns still greatly affect single American mothers, often leaving women trapped in abusive and/or unhealthy marriages. Sure, we're free to leave...but then what? Back to 20k or less.

So tell me what you think: Are women getting married for love or married for financial stability?

Planned Parenthood Under Attack

Last week I was visiting Washington D.C. on vacation and was inspired to see activists from all over the country gathered for a Planned Parenthood conference and Capitol Day. As I walked around sightseeing in the nearly 100-degree heat, it was inspiring to see groups of teens, men, and women with their pink T-shirts and bags reading “I Stand with Planned Parenthood.”

But it was particularly disheartening when I returned home to Connecticut at the end of the week and logged onto my computer to read that my home state of New Hampshire had, in the words of one writer , “lost its damn mind and defunded Planned Parenthood.” Indeed, the New Hampshire Executive Council voted to cancel the state's contract with Planned Parenthood and rejected up to $1.8 million in state funding, which is 20 percent of Planned Parenthood’s total annual funding. The Council also stripped Planned Parenthood’s authority to dispense low-cost birth control and antibiotics to uninsured patients. The New Hampshire legislature rejected efforts during the 2011 legislative session to defund Planned Parenthood, but the Executive Council overturned that decision and that of the Executive Office of Health and Human Services with a 3-2 vote.

The Huffington Post article article provided some insight as to the effect the defunding will have on their patients, many of whom are low-income women:

"We can't even provide patients with antibiotics for urinary tract infections or STDs anymore," said Jennifer Frizzell, a spokesperson for Planned Parenthood of Northern New England. She said Planned Parenthood has had to turn away 20 to 30 patients a day who are showing up to refill their prescriptions. "We have to send them away with a prescription knowing that without insurance, they have to pay the full cost of that at a local pharmacy, and many patients have told us they're not gonna have the money in their budget to afford to fill those prescriptions."

The federal government has warned New Hampshire that it must have statewide access to family planning or risk losing $1.4 million in federal funds allocated to the state. But this is not just happening in New Hampshire. GOP lawmakers in Indiana, North Carolina, Wisconsin, and Kansas have also defunded Planned Parenthood in their 2011 legislative sessions because some of the organization's clinics provide abortions, and at least two other states are moving to do the same. (Huffington Post article)

A post on the web site Jezebel.com noted that Councilors voted to defund because some clinics provide abortions, even though those abortions are privately funded. And one councilor was quoted by The Concord Monitor as saying that he opposed funding for birth control and condoms altogether. “"If they want to have a good time, why not let them pay for it?" said Councilor Raymond Wieczorek of Manchester.

I am proud to live in a state whose elected representatives support Planned Parenthood and that our legislature has not made an assault on an organization that provides such critical services for so many. Fortunately we can say that, here in Connecticut, we stand with Planned Parenthood.

Saving Lives: Free medical treatment for Women and Children in Sierra Leone

In keeping with our July theme of "freedom" I couldn't resist sharing this riveting New York Times article that outline's Sierra Leone's recent government decision to waive the medical fees for pregnant women and small children. This progressive conclusion is saving the lives of women and children across Sierra Leone by giving them the opportunity to seek the medical assistance they desperately need, but could not afford!

The measurable outcomes of these free services have been nothing short of astounding! Since this program has become available, “Sierra Leone has seen a 214 percent increase in the number of children under 5 getting care at health facilities, a 61 percent decrease in mortality rates in difficult pregnancy cases at health clinics, and an 85 percent drop in the malaria fatality rate for children treated in hospitals.”

I encourage you read this wonderful article and reflect on some of the little freedoms we tend to take for granted!

Spotted!

There it was, sitting humbly next to the soap dispenser in my office's public restroom, a message all of us should take to heart:











What a great reminder that Valentine's Day isn't just about the love you express to others - share a little of that love with yourself!

Do something good for yourself, whether it's this week...this month...this year...and be sure to treat yourself well!

Oscar-Nominated Black Swan Brings Body Image Issues to the Big Screen

Have you seen "Black Swan," the highly-acclaimed and Oscar-nominated thriller that's recently dominated the theaters?

To be honest, I haven't...yet. But what I have seen are the countless interviews with the movie's star Natalie Portman, whom everyone of course scrambled to interview with the positive movie buzz.

Nearly all of the interviews touched upon Natalie's drastic weight loss and rigorous exercise routine to portray the ballerina - 20 pounds dropped off of the actress' already slim frame. Many interviewers praised her for her dedication to sticking with such a regimented schedule for an entire year before and during filming.

What message does this send to young women? An actress receiving just as much publicity for her extreme weight loss as her potentially multi-award winning performance?

Image courtesy of imdb.com.

Not a workplace conduct violation?

Then the NFL is no place I'd like to work for. Turns out it was ruled that Brett Favre did not violate workplace policy when he allegedly sent "inappropriate text and phone messages, as well as photos of his genitalia" to Jenn Sterger, a former media personality for the New York Jets.

Sexual harassment in the workplace does go beyond 'quid pro quo' harassment - it also includes hostile work environment harassment. Looks like the NFL's sexual harassment policy needs to be given a serious review.

Let's stop calling it a 'scandal' and start calling it what it appears to be: sexual harassment in the workplace.

Read one story about Favre here.

Image courtesy of msn.com