10/14/11
Law change would let royal daughter inherit the throne: PM launches talks on succession issue
10/12/11
Mammogram for you... Mammogram for Me...
So when my mom had her follow-up appointment, I didn't go with her because I thought all was ok. Unfortunately, it wasn't. They had discovered cancer in the tissue, and while it was early stages, it still required an additional surgery and radiation. It was a stressful time, filled with uncertainty and the labyrinth of insurance processes. We got through everything and she's been cancer-free for over 5 years.
Two years ago, I remember when I tried to give assurance to my cousin that she didn't have breast cancer. We were at our cousin's wedding (we have a big family), and she told me she found a lump in her breast. I diagnosed it as a cyst, and assured her all would be ok. Two weeks later, on her fortieth birthday, she was told she had stage 3 breast cancer. Two masectomies and many, many rounds of chemotherapy later, she got through everything, has her hair back and is now cancer-free.
This Breast Cancer Awarness month, I would like to celebrate these two amazing women and the great lessons they taught me in determination, perserverance and strength. I would also like to celebrate Mrs. M, whose story is below and not as fortunate.
As a celebration of these lives, I would like to give a reminder. We have all heard about getting mammograms and doing self-checks-- but have you actually done it? Perhaps today would be a good day to take one step toward the assurance of good health.
A Rare Breast Cancer Remembered
by Patricia Yarberry Allen, M.D.
I was a 27-year-old surgical intern at New York Hospital in 1976 when I took care of
my first patient who died from breast cancer. Mrs. M. was a 40-year-old woman with two young children and a loving husband. About eight weeks before I met her, she had noticed that her left breast had become swollen, red, and somewhat tender. Her skin felt firm and the texture was like the skin of an orange. She’d had mastitis when breastfeeding a few years before and thought that this was the same thing, but she didn’t have a fever and she didn’t feel sick the way she had then. She saw her GP, who prescribed antibiotics for an infection, bought larger bras since the size of her left breast had increased, and used warm soaks on that breast, but nothing improved. She then saw her gynecologist, who referred her for a mammogram; the mammogram showed thickened skin in the left breast but no other abnormality. The gynecologist called a breast surgeon for an early appointment for the woman. The surgeon performed a biopsy and found a breast malignancy that appeared on his experienced clinical exam to have spread throughout much of the breast and lymph nodes. He had seen only two cases like this before and both patients had died quickly.
I was the surgical intern who was responsible for the first in hospital interview and examination of this patient , who was to have surgery the next day. I took a careful history and did a gentle exam. I made sure that all of the required tests were ordered for a pre-op patient.
In 1976 the life of a house officer, as interns and residents were called, was not for the frail. We worked 36 hours on and 12 hours off with free one-and-a-half day weekends every two weeks. The night before Mrs. M’s surgery was my night “off.” I remember that I signed out to the incoming team at 9 pm, then wen to visit Mrs. M. Visiting hours had ended and she was there alone. My years of hospital work as a nurse’s aide had given me an understanding of patient anxiety that other young doctors at my stage did not generally have. I knew that she would be frightened about all of it: how she would be treated in the operating room, the removal of her breast, the diagnosis of breast cancer, the reaction of her husband, friends, and family to the news. I also knew what the surgeon suspected and she did not yet know — that she might die from this cancer.
I stayed for an hour, admiring pictures of her children and talking about her garden in Long Island that gave her such pleasure. Before I left, I asked if I could call her husband and have him bring some things to the hospital the next day. I made the call from her room and asked if he would bring her own pillow, some family pictures, and some photographs of her garden. I handed the receiver to her so he could give his wife a goodnight phone kiss.
Mrs. M had a radical mastectomy with removal of many lymph nodes from the left armpit the next morning. The news was bad. She had stage 4 breast cancer, with 30 out of 30 lymph nodes positive. She had a rare kind of breast cancer that didn’t have a name yet but was being discussed at meetings because it looked and acted differently. The women who had this cancer were often younger at diagnosis and almost all of them died. When the diagnosis was made the cancer was always advanced.
Mrs. M was strong and healthy otherwise. She was ready to fight her cancer with all the chemotherapy and radiation treatments that were suggested. Each time she was admitted to the hospital for some complication of the terrible chemotherapy complications of those times — wiped-out white cells and red cells requiring blood transfusions, wiped-out immune system with pneumonia and blood stream infections — she called me and I would see her daily.
Mrs. M died 4 months from the day I met her, with metastatic disease in the brain and lungs, and pneumonia that could no longer be treated. I was with her when she died on the 17th floor of the hospital, in the last room on on the left.
Today her cancer has a name: inflammatory breast cancer.
It’s a rare but aggressive form of breast cancer. While it accounts for 2 to 6 percent of all breast cancers, the 5-year overall survival rate is 40 percent, as compared to nearly 90 percent for all types of breast cancer combined. The key to survival is an early and accurate diagnosis and being in the care of healthcare providers who specialize in inflammatory breast cancer. Today there are centers devoted to the scientific study of this cancer and to the cutting edge care of these patients. And there is hope, because the money raised by breast cancer awareness groups has given scientists and physicians the labs and tools they need to discover why this cancer is so aggressive, why it is different from other breast cancers, what treatment protocols work best, and whether there are gene markers that will identify women at risk or will change the type of treatment program that will work best for each woman.
I teach my patients to look at their breasts (as well as palpate them) as part of their breast self-exam, reminding them that they should not assume that pain or redness that persists for a week is something simple. I tell them to look for changes in the texture of the skin and for nipple retraction, both hallmarks of inflammatory breast cancer, and I tell them to see a doctor right away, as this rare form of breast cancer still is diagnosed later than it should be.
The 17th floor of New York Hospital is no longer used for surgical patients. I do not have patients in the hospital on this floor. But once a year I visit it anyway, take a walk to the door of the last room on the left, and remember Mrs. M, her heroic struggle to live for her children and her family, and how little we in medicine could do for her at that time.
Patricia Yarberry Allen, MD, director of the New York Menopause Center, is a gynecologist affiliated with New York-Presbyterian Hospital and a board-certified fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology. She is a spokesperson on women’s health, and the publisher of Women’s Voices for Change.
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10/11/11
Three Pay Negotiation Strategies That Will Change Your Life!
If you missed our September 22nd Pay Negotiation Seminar with Dr. Shannon Lane, you are in luck! Below you will find three of her amazing techniques she shared at the Seminar! Thank you Dr. Lane!
“Before women can get their fair share, they will have to believe that they are entitled to equity and learn how to negotiate.”
--Virginia Valian, Why So Slow? The Advancement of Women
The process of salary negotiating can be intimidating for all of us. However, the most important tactic is to be willing to negotiate. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.
What are some techniques to make your salary negotiation successful?
1. Research:
You don’t want to ask for a salary that is too high and will count you out of the running. You don’t want to ask for a salary that is too low, and will make them lose respect for you. You’ll feel more confident in your negotiation if you know that the salary you’re asking for is in the right range. How can you be sure you’re asking for the right amount?
One way is to use the internet to research the average salaries for your position in your geographic area or the company you’re applying to. Two great online resources are payscale.com and glassdoor.com. Both ask users to share information about their jobs and companies and use that to help you find out the range for your job in your area.
Don’t limit your research to the internet! Professional connections are an excellent source of information on salaries in your field. These should include professional organizations, your professors, mentors, current and former bosses. One tip: asking someone how much money they make can be difficult (and unwelcome). Consider asking what the “average” salary is for this job, or “what should a new person in this field/at this company expect to make?”
2. Timing: When is the best time to negotiate a salary? You should try to negotiate during the time period after you’ve been offered a job, but before you’ve accepted the job. (Note: this means you have to fight all of your impulses to accept a job right away, even if it’s your dream job!) This is the time when you have the most power you’ll ever have: they’ve committed to you both psychologically and in terms of time/resources. If at all possible, get them to give you a number first, rather than you stating a salary number first.
Also, remember if you’re asked to state a range that the lowest number in the range should be a number you are willing to accept. If I’m hoping for a salary of $55,000, I might be tempted to say $50,000-60,000 as a range. However, if $50,000 came out of my mouth, it’s on the table and fair game! So the lowest number you’re willing to accept should be at or below the lowest number in the range you state. If I really hope for a salary of $55,000, a better range might be $55,000-65,000 or $60,000-65,000.
3. Confidence:
If you don’t believe you’re worth the salary you’re asking for, neither will the person on the other side of the table/phone line. You’ll increase your confidence if you’re sure you’re asking for the right salary at the right time in the process, but it’s also important to sell yourself on your abilities and skills.
Also, remember that negotiation is not the same as confrontation. You are well within your right to negotiate, and it can absolutely be done in a collegial, productive manner!The best way to build your confidence is to practice. You practice the other skills you use in your job, so why not practice this one?
Start with small things: negotiate with the grocery store to see if they’ll let you use an expired coupon. Ask the farmer’s market if they’ll give you a deal if you buy two pounds of apples instead of one. Call your cable company and tell them that their competition has a better rate—ask them if they’re willing to lower your bill. (Copy that idea for credit card interest rates and bank fees!) See if your significant other is willing to go to the movie you really want to see if you’re willing to let him/her choose the restaurant for dinner. Once you know you can negotiate small things, the big ones aren’t so intimidating!
Finally, remember that there are worse things to hear than no. If you ask to negotiate salary and they don’t have any negotiation room, you may be able to parlay that effort into a negotiation about vacation days, benefits, or working from home. And, if nothing else, you’ve established that you’re a confident person who knows how to advocate—that’s a great beginning impression for employers.
You’re turn:Tell us: what are the methods you’ve used to research the salary for your job? What are some ways you’ve practiced negotiation? And if you’ve negotiated salary successfully, please share your secrets!
10/10/11
Nobel Peace Prize Awarded to Three Activist Women
By ALAN COWELL, LAURA KASINOF and ADAM NOSSITER
LONDON — The Nobel Peace Prize for 2011 was awarded on Friday to three women from Africa and the Arab world in acknowledgment of their nonviolent role in promoting peace, democracy and gender equality. The winners were President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf of Liberia — the first woman to be elected president in modern Africa — her compatriot, the peace activist Leymah Gbowee, and Tawakkol Karman of Yemen, a pro-democracy campaigner.
They were the first women to win the prize since Wangari Maathai of Kenya, who died last month, was named as the laureate in 2004.
Most of the recipients in the award’s 110-year history have been men, and Friday’s decision seemed designed to give impetus to the fight for women’s rights around the world.
“We cannot achieve democracy and lasting peace in the world unless women obtain the same opportunities as men to influence developments at all levels of society,” said the citation read by Thorbjorn Jagland, a former Norwegian prime minister who heads the Oslo-based Nobel committee that chooses the winner of the $1.5 million prize.
In a subsequent interview, he described the prize as “a very important signal to women all over the world.”
Sitting inside her blue tent at the antigovernment sit-in where she has lived since late February, Ms. Karman, the Yemeni human rights activist, said “I didn’t expect it,” her eyes growing wide, a red flowered veil around her head. “It came as a total surprise.”
Ms. Karman, 32, a mother of three, took to the streets of the capital along with about 50 other university students in January, demanding the resignation of President Ali Abdullah Saleh.
“This is a victory for Arabs around the world,” she said of the prize, adding “and a victory for Arab women.”
In Liberia, Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf said that she and Ms. Gbowee accepted “this honor on behalf of the Liberian people, and the credit goes to them.”
“For we are now going into our ninth year of peace, and every Liberian has contributed to it,” she said. “We particularly give this credit to Liberian women, who have consistently led the struggle for peace, even under conditions of neglect.”
Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf is nearing the end of a heated re-election campaign, and as the world absorbed the news of her prize, her nation’s capital, Monrovia, was virtually shut down by a previously scheduled rally intended to energize the opposition before the vote on Tuesday.
Mr. Jagland said the election had not influenced the committee’s decision, calling the ballot there a “domestic consideration.” Analysts in Liberia have described the president’s re-election prospects as uncertain, though the Nobel announcement could change that. The Nobel committee’s decision underscored the gap between local perceptions of her — it is not hard to find critics of the president in Liberia — and the view from abroad.
Indeed, while Liberians widely acknowledge that peace and security have improved markedly during her tenure, Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf’s success in securing forgiveness for billions of dollars worth of Liberian debt and the change she has effected in the nation’s once brutal international image are often less appreciated in Monrovia than among outsiders. Unemployment is daunting, and the country is still mired in poverty.
But some residents took obvious pride in the decision. As the prize was announced, Bushuben Keita, a spokesman for Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf’s Unity Party, declared: “We are dancing. This is the thing that we have been saying: progress has been made in Liberia. We’ve come through 14 years of war, and we have come to sustained peace.
“This is proof that she has been doing well; there’s no cheating in this, this comes from other people. She’s doing very, very well. Her progress has been confirmed by the international community.”
In Yemen, Ms. Karman called the prize “the victory of our peaceful revolution. I am so happy, and I give this award to all of the youth and all of the women across the Arab world, in Egypt, in Tunisia.”
“We cannot build our country or any country in the world without peace,” she said.
In an op-ed piece published in The New York Times on June 18, Ms. Karman, whose first name in Arabic has been spelled as both Tawakkol and Tawakul, characterized President Saleh’s regime as a corrupt failure, and she urged the United States to quit supporting him even though he has portrayed himself as indispensable to the American effort to eliminate Al Qaeda operatives in Yemen. American officials have been pressing Mr. Saleh to relinquish power in a peaceful transition.
In Washington, Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton, one of the world’s most powerful women, praised the award recipients. “The unflinching courage, strength and leadership of these women to build peace, advance reconciliation and defend the rights of fellow citizens in their own countries provide inspiration for women’s rights and human progress everywhere,” Mrs. Clinton said in a statement.
In Egypt, several activists who had been rumored to be in contention for the prize for their roles in the Egyptian revolution — the Google executive Wael Ghonim, the online organizer Esraa Abdel Fatah and the members of the April 6 Youth Movement — expressed pride that a young Arab had won the Nobel.
They declared that the true prize they sought was the fruition of the Egyptian revolution in the development of democracy in Egypt and the region. “We will work hard even if we didn’t get the Nobel prize,” Waleed Rashed, a spokesman for the April 6 group, said in an Internet posting.
More than 250 people were nominated for the prize this year, and there had been speculation that the committee would reward bloggers or other activists from the Middle East who used social networking sites and other Internet platforms as they challenged entrenched dictatorships, particularly in Tunisia and Egypt.
But if the committee had singled out the Arab Spring, it could have courted criticism that, far from rewarding efforts toward peace, it had chosen a phenomenon whose final outcome in Egypt and Tunisia is far from clear, and which has provoked bloodletting and strife in Libya, Syria, Yemen and Bahrain.
Mr. Jagland said the 2011 prize recognized those “who were there long before the world’s media was there reporting.”
The announcement in the Norwegian capital followed intense speculation that the prize would be awarded variously to a figure from the Arab Spring, the European Union or exclusively to Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf, 72, a Harvard-educated economist, who has often been cast as a pioneer in African politics.
In a recent interview with the Paris-based monthly magazine The Africa Report, Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf said she did not “want Africa to return to the men’s club” and forecast that women would take over in more African countries.
“It will definitely happen in other countries because many women are now vying for the presidency, which didn’t happen much in the past,” said Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf, who was inaugurated in January 2006.
She was broadly perceived as a reformer and peacemaker when she took office after several years in exile, during which she worked as a World Bank economist.
In Yemen, Ms. Karman has been widely known as a vocal opponent of the pro-American regime of Mr. Saleh since 2007, leading a human rights advocacy group called Women Journalists Without Chains. But it was only earlier this year — before the uprisings in Tunisia and Egypt had gained momentum — that her readiness to take to the streets inspired thousands more in Yemen to do the same.
Her brief arrest by the authorities in January incensed many people and is credited by some analysts in Yemen with starting the widespread protests that have convulsed the impoverished land since. Some of her supporters have labeled her “the Mother of Revolution.”
Since then, however, she has become a contentious figure, criticized even by some in the anti-Saleh opposition, and her share in the prize could stir further debate among antigovernment activists.
Among women of Yemen’s Arab neighbors, however, the choice of Ms. Karman was cause for celebration, both for women and Islam. Nadia Mostafa, a professor of international relations at Cairo University, said the prize was endowed with “political significance.”
“Islam has always been associated with radical terrorism, intolerance and more,” she said. “Giving it to a woman and an Islamist? That means a sort of re-evaluation. It means Islam is not against peace, it’s not against women, and Islamists can be women activists, and they can fight for human rights, freedom and democracy.”
Ms. Gbowee, 39, was cited by the Nobel committee for uniting Christian and Muslim women against her country’s warlords. As head of the Women for Peace movement, she was praised for mobilizing women “across ethic and religious dividing lines to bring an end to the long war” that had raged for years in Liberia until its end in 2003 and for ensuring “women’s participation in elections.”
Her organization was founded in 2002 when Ms. Gbowee rallied women to sing and pray to protest fighting in a fish market.
“This whole process of three women receiving the Nobel Peace Prize is really overwhelming,” Ms. Gbowee said in a telephone interview in New York, where she had just arrived on the last stop of an eight-city tour in the United States to promote “Mighty Be Our Powers,” her new memoir describing her life in war-torn Liberia. “It’s finally a recognition that we can’t ignore the other half of the world’s population. We cannot ignore their unique skills.”
Asked whom she was going to vote for when she returned to Liberia for the election on Tuesday, Ms. Gbowee said: “President Johnson Sirleaf.”
Vaiba Flomo, a women’s right activists who has worked with Ms. Gbowee since 1998, said: “What motivated Leymah was the children she saw dying from starvation; women are getting raped, receiving multiple traumas. People shared with her, made her to come to know these things.” Without such commitment, she said, “half the Liberian youth population will be amputated.”
“It’s good news for the Liberian people,” said Emmanuel Ogbodu, a teacher, standing by the side of the road in the ramshackle seaside capital, referring to Mrs. Johnson Sirleaf. “It’s a good way for peace in Liberia. Since she got in the chair, for me, we are experiencing peace. So I think she deserved it. Through her, peace came.”
Immediate reaction in Monrovia was muted as the news was slow to spread. But some who had heard expressed satisfaction. “I appreciate her highly, very well,” said Kona Ndoma, a civil servant.
“She has done very much for developmental purposes. So now, we go for the second term, please,” said Mr. Ndoma. “She stabilized peace. There is no gunfire at all.”
A woman selling fritters by the side of the road, Christiana Sami, said: “She deserves it, because she has developed the area. She’s done some important things.” A student, Grace Kollie, 18, walking to school, said: “She increased the education system in Liberia. She also carried on good development in the country.”
Forecasts of the winner are rarely accurate. In 2009, the committee stunned Nobel watchers by awarding the prize to President Obama.
Last year’s winner was the Chinese dissident Liu Xiaobo — a choice that infuriated the Chinese authorities and led them to take reprisals against Norway. Mr. Liu was not allowed to leave China to receive the prize and was represented on stage at the award ceremony in December by an empty chair.
In the past the prize has not infrequently been split among several recipients, including the 1994 prize shared by the Palestinian Yasser Arafat and the Israelis Shimon Peres and Yitzhak Rabin; the 1978 award to Anwar Sadat of Egypt and Menachem Begin of Israel; and the 1973 prize to Henry A. Kissinger of the United States and Le Duc Tho of North Vietnam.
Alan Cowell reported from London, Laura Kasinof from Sana, Yemen, and Adam Nossiter from Monrovia, Liberia. Reporting was contributed by Heba Afify from Cairo, Anthony Shadid from Istanbul, Turkey, and Rick Gladstone from New York.
10/9/11
100 Ways to "Love Your Body"

10/8/11
6 Reasons to Love Your Body

Yesterday, as I ate lunch with my mother-in-law, I listened as she critiqued her forehead for its wrinkles, her hair for its grey, and her stomach for its girth. All the while I wondered if she would ever know the strength of her beauty and love herself the way she deserves to be loved. I realized then, as I do each time I look in the mirror, that beauty is more than a reflection and each and every woman should be encouraged to love herself unconditionally.
Below is an article from Best Health Magazine which points to the importance of woman embracing their individuality and finding comfort in their own skin.
6 Reasons to Love Your Body
Whether you’re pleasingly plump or long and lean, loving your body as it is will make you—and the people around you—happier and healthier.
1.Love your quirks to honour Aunt Myrtle
“Most of us can see a beloved relative’s shape when we look at our bodies,” says Pat Ballard, a “Health at Every Size” movement activist and author of 10 Steps to Loving Your Body (No Matter What Size You Are). Stop lamenting the day you inherited a family member’s chubby cheeks or flat silhouette. Instead, cherish the parts that remind you of Aunt Myrtle or Grandma, and remember her strengths. “Be thankful your body is a constant reminder of someone you love," says Ballard.
2. Love the skin you’re in, and others will, too
“When you’re hard on yourself, the people around you usually jump on the bandwagon,” says Quebec-based nutritionist and body coach Robyn Jaquays. “They’re hard on you, too.” The more you honour and appreciate your body, the more likely it is you’ll attract positive, uplifting people into your life. “Stop telling yourself you’re fat, ugly or stupid,” she says. “And stop comparing yourself to others—you’re doing yourself an injustice! Instead, focus on your best qualities.”
3. Remember the 20% rule when you look in the mirror
“You are 20 percent more beautiful to other people than to the woman you see in the mirror every day,” says Eva Ritvo, MD, co-author of The Beauty Prescription. “Why? Because when you look at your reflection, all you see is your physical form. You’re looking for flaws.” She explains that when others see you, they also take in your personality, style, intelligence, sex appeal and wit—the whole you.
4. Love your legs, leave a legacy
“We need to love our bodies so our daughters, granddaughters and nieces look in the mirror and love what they see," says Ontario-based writer and retired elementary school teacher Judy Bagshaw. The more we honour and respect our bodies, the less others will feel the need to mutilate or abuse their bodies to attain perfection. “It’s appalling how girls, some as young as seven or eight, already hate their bodies,” says Bagshaw. “What legacy are we handing these women of the future?” She encourages women to be proud of their bodies, because the younger generation is watching and learning.
5. Love your body and it will love you back
“I’ve conducted weight loss seminars for over 25 years,” says Florida-based hypnotherapist John Morgan. “At least 90 percent of women who attend have an ‘I hate my body’ mindset. There is a direct correlation between hating your body and retaining weight.” Morgan explains that if you’ve built an adversarial relationship with your body through negative thoughts and comments, then your body is less likely to cooperate with your attempts to lose weight or get healthy. It rebels. He says, “Learning to love yourself will repair your relationship with your body and make it more willing to cooperate with your requests.”
6. Love yourself for the power within
“I always loathed my body,” says stay-at-home mother of three Dawn Johnston, a former marketing/PR director. “Even when I was thin, I was convinced that I was a slob. I wouldn’t even wear short sleeves.” Her perspective changed when she was pregnant with, birthed and nursed her first child. “I couldn't believe that my body – which I spent so much time hating—could actually grow a human being! This body of mine actually worked. That’s when I stopped hating my body and started appreciating it for the miracle that it truly is.”
Why do you love your body? Tell us in the comments.
